Bare HEARTS and other stuff if you feel like staying
this letter is not about vegetables or sex
I repeat: This letter is not about vegetables or sex. 🙃
Hi loves,
You know what really peeves me, those videos, emails, etc where they tell you that they are going to tell you something, but then keep you waiting and waiting and waiting. And waiting and waiting and waiting. And waiting! And in the meantime, they don’t tell you anything at all. When this happens (like always), I either listen for 8 minutes before losing my patience or I listen to the entire thing and then think, why?
I don’t want the suspense! I have enough of that in my life.
I am sure that you know what I am talking about because every system/marketing strategy is based on this. This being, that we are stupid and have time to waste.
Well, I am not going to do that.
quick share: yesterday I turned to my husband and said, completely seriously: ‘I truly hate systems’. The conversation ended there. Is there really anything more to say (not a question).
3 2 1 …. drumroll please. It always feels exciting and fun to do this, doesn’t it?
Bare HEARTS,
a brand new Q&A interview series
is coming
to your inbox
Sunday, July 13th!
and I am soooo excited to share it with you.
Every second Sunday of each month, I will present one of my favorite substackers. I will be asking them to get completely transparent with us. (Transparency, yes! I so need this in my life. I believe we all really, seriously do.)
Each guest will be sharing intimate, honest details about fundamental stuff like self-love, health, core values, their joys and fears, relationships, and personal responsibility.
The intention:
to resource our living practice
to reinforce our thing here: You grow with me. I grow with you.
to encourage one another to free ourselves of appearances and breathe life into who we are when we are not performing
to really connect and feel connected
to raise our faith in humanity and the world
I m going to invite all types of humans, substackers you may know really well, as well as substackers that you may have never heard of.
Size doesn’t matter here
(But truly, doesn’t this already feel so good in your body?
How often have you or somebody else made it all about size -
your scores, your money, your success, your productivity, your popularity, your voice, your car, the price tag… your vocabulary and reading list and how full of stamps your passport is… your nose, your body, your…?
- making you feel little.
Bare HEARTS is about everyone mattering. There are no levels, just experience and emotions that we are sincerely, lovingly, energetically interested in.
The mindset: when I read something honest that you have shared with me, I feel something extraordinary moving inside. I am being touched by something real!
You need to be yourself because yourself is valuable.)
- big or small - everyone has something extraordinary to share.
Bare HEARTS and open minds. That beautiful beginner’s mind where judgment has no place and learning is endless. And fun.
(being you is fun! because it is so freeing)
I believe that we, as substackers, particularly excel in this - the unconditional support of one another, the honoring of voice and expression, the genuine curiosity, and the offering of our truest selves.
(So far, this system works. Let’s do our part and keep our fingers crossed.)
There is so much wealth, wisdom, and love among us. I want us to bathe in it.
Most of all, we are here to hold space for heart-to-heart conversation and reflection about how to fully live and love this life.
We.
This means that you matter too. So let’s talk. Your comments, questions, suggestions. Your emotions and experiences.
You sharing this letter to your family, friends, and subscribers.
Who do you know who is craving honest talk and a loving space to grow their wisdom and inner smile?
I am asking you to kick into action the I got you, you got me*.
Yes, I am asking here. Please RESTACK & SHARE this email. RESTACK & SHARE THE IMAGE ABOVE. Tell your people to Subscribe to How To Live This Life.
And of course, if you haven’t done so yet, please Subscribe now.
It would be so wonderful for our first guests to have a warm, enthusiastic welcome. That guest may just be YOU one day. Dm me if you are interested.
I am one of the small ones. I need your help.
Do you got me?
Now, if you feel like hanging a few minutes more…
I have lost quite a few subscribers in the last few weeks. I have been here for 7 months now and as I said, I'm small. So this could feel big.
But I have travelled a long road. And I am so happy to be in a place where I am truly happy about this.
A few weeks ago, I posted an honest, loving letter. In a Note I said that it was not for everyone. I get this. I do not need it to be for everyone. Not anymore.
I am messy and emotional. I ask questions. I make declarations of love. I share affirmations and poems. My writing is never perfect. Of course, it is not going to be for everyone.
It is so right when a person leaves an environment because it does not feel right. Why would we want anyone to force anyone into our box?
It would take some freakish schadenfreude to desire this (don’t know if I am using this right, but I saw this word the other day and thought why not try it).
I am not writing this to sound all sexy cool and evolved.
I am sharing this because I know how it feels when someone unsubscribing transfers into a very personal message:
I totally suck.
Anything that feels like an abandonment or criticism does. Our hurting inner child suffers. But I will remind us of Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements.
(If you haven’t read it, it is a bible that should always be kept close by).
Agreement #1: Do not take anything personally. It will protect your joy. Truly. This is a reminder that will shoot you a zillion steps forward on your self-love path.
And besides…
No guys, we do not suck. Not even a little. We simply aren't for everyone (our words, our humor, our aura, our love).
Or the person really appreciated us and they just had to downsize a bit. I mean, all those emails everyday. We get it. I have to make choices too. Email stress exists.
And plus, personally, I’d much rather an intimate dinner party with people who are interested in love and honesty (and honest, loving laughter) as much as we do, than a rave party, where there is a huge crowd of people and zero conversation.
I wish everyone to find the spaces that fully fill them. It doesn’t have to be my space today or ever. (In Buddhism we would call this muditā.)
a thank you
I asked myself a question the other day: Why do I matter to the people who I matter to? It is an amazing question to ask yourself, not only if you write, but as a human.
Why do I matter?
I answered the question without thinking about it too much. And this is what I wrote:
I matter because I tell it as it is and still manage to give the gift of an inner glow (most of the times).
I matter because I am not flawless, but as flawlessly honest as possibile.
I matter because reminding humans that they are loveable matters to me. Life matters to me.
I matter because I trust that life is beautiful above all else.
I don’t know if this is why you are here, but it is why I believe that you are here.
I also believe that the desire is crystal clear: LOVE. HONESTY. TRUST. CONNECTION.
Everything I share is to keep us committed to these 4 human necessities and help us to eliminate the things that are getting in our way.
Is this why you are here? Take a moment to say YES or to tell me what makes you stay.
This said, thank you. And thank you. And thank you.
Thank you… oh god, how we all just want to feel loveable… with beaming lights, glitter flying, my heart floating.
Reminder: Bare HEARTS is coming. The first interview will arrive in your inbox on Sunday, July 13th. Don’t miss it.
Our first guest is someone truly exceptional. So please RESTACK and make sure that you are subscribed.
You grow with me. I grow with you. my heart reaching out to yours, xo Danni
Ps if you wanted this letter to be about vegetables or sex, sorry to disappoint you. But you never know what the future may bring.
* taken from and her beautiful ‘I Got You’ movement.
** this new series was inspired by the marvelous, .
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This is fabulous! I love this, and I love this a lot: "There are no levels, just experience and emotions that we are sincerely, lovingly, energetically interested in." Stay contagious and courageous with who you are and how you do. 💖
Looking forward to this! 🥳